Wednesday, August 07, 2013

12 years of choice

"The Art Of Sleeping Alone chronicles Fontanel’s decision to give up sex for 12 years, and also examines other people’s reactions to her self-enforced celibacy."

"There’s a phrase “we made love all night long”. But who wants to make love all night, without sleeping or talking? That’s the sort of thing I deal with, the sort of thing that needs to be talked about. It’s the sort of sexuality that is terrifying for women – and for men, because it’s they who must maintain the erection. When my book came out, a number of men told me they were glad I’d written it, that it was liberating for them too.

Some people assumed she’d given up because she was getting no pleasure from it, which she says wasn’t the case; her dissatisfaction was gradual, not triggered by a single incident, and to do with a failure to find 'the whole package’ – a physical relationship that would live up to her hopes and dreams.

No sex, she concluded, was preferable to bad sex"

Read the article here.

See the book here: The Art of Sleeping Alone: Why One French Woman Suddenly Gave Up Sex

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